Guys, I'm having a serious problem with my mother.

[IllusionMan]

Ever since I was about 15, and my little siter was 13, my mom got really emotional with me, mainly about my sister, who always avoided her, which broke her heart over and over again every day. She foresaw my sister moving to the other end of the country with some guy who abused her, and so far, at age 20, she seems to be on the same path. I promised my mom that I would never leave her, and that I would always be within an hour drive of her. However, I met a woman after college who I fell in love with (Not so say she's ugly, but I'm attracted to her because of her personality, compassion, intellect and understanding) and I am planning to ask her hand in marriage. However, she wants to move back to Virginia, and I know that she won't stay here in NJ because she has her own reasons which are just as serious as mine. I talked to my mom about it and she said it was fine with her to move, but I can tell that she would die inside if I did that to her. I really don't know what the fuck I should do, as I will be just as broken up inside either way. Lose the love of my life, or live with the knoledge that I abandoned my mother who has already undergone so much hurt in her life.

[CTV]

Look for a house for her in Virginia.

Ask her if she would like to move with you (not in the same house).

Of course not on the same street on anything like that but as you said "within an hours drive", because u of course need privacy and im sure she understands that.

I dont think or Imagen that you could or would buy a house for her, but if you asked her if she would like to move to Virginia, sell her house and move, then the result may suit you both.

If the answer is a no, maybe you read her wrong.

Take care dude, and good luck with whatever you chose to do.

CTV

[mic732]

its totally your decision ... id move out een if it would brake myu mothers heart cuz my life isnt based on my mother and dont forget hearts get broken every day shell get over it

[CTV]

its totally your decision ... id move out een if it would brake myu mothers heart cuz my life isnt based on my mother and dont forget hearts get broken every day shell get over it

it is his mom and he will see her again though, its not as if he's leaving his mate.

[Roweena]

Look for a house for her in Virginia.

Ask her if she would like to move with you (not in the same house).

Of course not on the same street on anything like that but as you said "within an hours drive", because u of course need privacy and im sure she understands that.

I dont think or Imagen that you could or would buy a house for her, but if you asked her if she would like to move to Virginia, sell her house and move, then the result may suit you both.

If the answer is a no, maybe you read her wrong.

Take care dude, and good luck with whatever you chose to do.

CTV

my thoughts exactly... i was a bit late this evening :p

IllusionDude, good luck with w/e your gonna do with this situation

[CTV]

my thoughts exactly... i was a bit late this evening :p

IllusionDude, good luck with w/e your gonna do with this situation

it must be something in weed.

[Roweena]

hahahaha

might be :D :D

[IllusionMan]

Thanks guys. I think I'm going to end up proposing to her and ask my mom if she would like to sell her house and move somewhat close to my new home in Virginia, as CTV said, because this way she won't be alone (my dad passed away) and I won't lose my future wife.

[CTV]

Thanks guys. I think I'm going to end up proposing to her and ask my mom if she would like to sell her house and move somewhat close to my new home in Virginia, as CTV said, because this way she won't be alone (my dad passed away) and I won't lose my future wife.

:D Im happy for you mate.

[guns4eva]

If i were you i would murder the guy who is abusing your sister, or at least hire a hitman.

[CTV]

If i were you i would murder the guy who is abusing your sister, or at least hire a hitman.

that too. lol

or perhaps just fuck him up a bit....

actually fuck him up allot.

[guns4eva]

lol yeah, brillliant mind think alike <^^>

[447799]

Great Advice by the way!!

[IllusionMan]

If i were you i would murder the guy who is abusing your sister, or at least hire a hitman.

I did rough him up the last time he and my sister came to NJ, (i used to wrestle for college and I'm going to start as a coach soon) but my sister went on with her bullshit about how she hates me and how I ruined her life. Now they both hate me, but considering the fact that my sister already hated me and that I don't care what some chick beater thinks, it was worth it.

[walkingfeather]

Dude,
First off your mom did you a HUGE dis-service by putting you in the roll of her husband. It is not your place to be responsible for your mothers happiness and the fact that this is even an issue shows you that you are too emeshed with her.

If your girlfriend knew how much your mommy is wrapped around your life she would run like hell. Now as blunt as that was you can get un emeshed from her. Find someone that is a master practitioner in a field called NLP. A couple of sessions and you will be able to make a clear and rational decision without being stuck in the middle.

[mic732]

this thread is old

[IllusionMan]

Just wanted to let you guys know that I worked it all out...I proposed and she said yes, and I spoke with my sister and she is moving back home. I am moving to Virginia soon, but on the condition that we spend about 2/3 of the holidays at my hometown.

[charlesfore]

well good luck with that

[XXxxCROATIANxxXX]

just be a man and live your life...there just hlding you back. your family that is

[charlesfore]

they are his FAMILY thoe

[mic732]

we all think differently i said sumthing like that somewhere in this thread to

[mic732]

i know its family but its my life and i dont think i could live doing sumthing i dont like all my life just to be by my perrents side

[kirill]

lol commit suicide
seriosly,do what your hart tells you

[rashakash]

everything that's been said recently is all well and good, except for the fact that he solved his problem ages ago.......

[mic732]

yeah lol

[charlesfore]

everything that's been said recently is all well and good, except for the fact that he solved his problem ages ago.......

or posts ago how ever you want to look at it

[monzter]

ow man i am so hungry i just almost ate silly putty while reading this tread

[youtookmyname]

ow man i am so hungry i just almost ate silly putty while reading this tread

dood the last post for this was over 3 months ago back in december this is way past being a dead post. Please stop diggin these up

[charlesfore]

i wish he woild have ate the silly putty

[tekno1er]

me too Charles

[urmomishead]

way to late and way off the subject this was on a few months (or posts as charles said) ago

[youtookmyname]

I am not Charles :-/

[tekno1er]

this thread is dead

[tekno1er]

the guy probavbly killed himself by now

[demonhunter]

an amazing existence... trully.

[tacopalypse]

yea he definitely killed himself, he hasnt posted anything in a long time

[Spectre47]

do a barrell roll

[Weedealer]

Ever since I was about 15, and my little siter was 13, my mom got really emotional with me, mainly about my sister, who always avoided her, which broke her heart over and over again every day. She foresaw my sister moving to the other end of the country with some guy who abused her, and so far, at age 20, she seems to be on the same path. I promised my mom that I would never leave her, and that I would always be within an hour drive of her. However, I met a woman after college who I fell in love with (Not so say she's ugly, but I'm attracted to her because of her personality, compassion, intellect and understanding) and I am planning to ask her hand in marriage. However, she wants to move back to Virginia, and I know that she won't stay here in NJ because she has her own reasons which are just as serious as mine. I talked to my mom about it and she said it was fine with her to move, but I can tell that she would die inside if I did that to her. I really don't know what the fuck I should do, as I will be just as broken up inside either way. Lose the love of my life, or live with the knoledge that I abandoned my mother who has already undergone so much hurt in her life.


[ late with TOpic but idc :D]
Sit her down and say that you might be moving but to lighten her up say
"DOnt worry I'll only be a Phone call away call me anytime you want about anything."

[morelli]

get her to move with you, not like in the same house but the same town,even the same street,some people are sayin this forum is old, so tell us what happened at least?!

[youtookmyname]

kill this damn thread plz

[rashakash]

get her to move with you, not like in the same house but the same town,even the same street,some people are sayin this forum is old, so tell us what happened at least?!

this is what happened.....when you actually read the threads you learn a lot

also IllusionMan hasnt been seen in ages

Thanks guys. I think I'm going to end up proposing to her and ask my mom if she would like to sell her house and move somewhat close to my new home in Virginia, as CTV said, because this way she won't be alone (my dad passed away) and I won't lose my future wife.